march, 2018

9mar - 14mar 97:00 pmmar 14The Garden


Event Details

The great thing about a workshop is how safe you feel. …..The great thing about a play party is how free you feel. ……The great thing about The Garden is … both!!!

Are you ready to reclaim your lost innocence?  Would you like to transform guilt & shame into more joy & aliveness?  Are you ready to express your vibrancy in all its shades & colours?

Ellie & Newman invite you into The Garden happening in Auckland next March: a transformative place where you can explore your desires, embrace your uniqueness, and deepen your capacity for intimacy, connection and pleasure.

In The Garden you can dare to feel, express and be more of who you really are. Here you can celebrate yourself, be applauded for your authenticity and even discover your erotic innocence. You may be amazed to discover what happens when you open up and let go.

Sexual healing is a powerful tool on our journey to wholeness – and at some point we’ve got to find out way back to PLEASURE.

In The Garden we embrace it all. Here you can dare to express your sexual desires in healthy and consensual ways – even if they feel unusual, dark or naughty.

We create a space of permission and possibilities – where more of you can come forward and be welcomed. This is one of the most transformative and healing things you can ever do: to find that place of deep belonging where all of you is welcome: the tenderest, filthiest, the fiercest, even the most hidden parts of yourself.

The Garden is a reclaiming of lost innocence, celebrating the beauty of the playful and the erotic. It’s a place to explore, to love and to dare. To find the heart in your kinks and the kinks in your heart. It’s an extraordinary place where you can be your boldest, most vibrant self. Are you ready to step into The Garden for an unforgettable, life-changing adventure?

What happens in The Garden?

The Garden is a place to explore pleasure, intimacy and connection. Drawing on over a decade in sex-positive community, Newman & Ellie create an atmosphere of permission where you can learn, expand and play.

For five glorious days we leave the everyday world behind and enter Magical Space. Here you can let your armour down to welcome deep intimacy and authentic connection. With us supporting and guiding you, you’ll discover your own unique ways of opening up.

*************Apply here to come to the Garden****************

Friday 9th March
Arrive at 5pm, get settled in, join us for supper and we start our exploration and meeting one another that night!

Saturday 10th, Sunday 11th, Monday 12th (morning)
Using techniques and exercises drawn from tantra, personal development, conscious kink, shamanism and theatre, we support you to lower your defences and meet others with an open heart. We work with the Eight Pillars of Magical Space (see below), inviting you to connect with what’s less present in yourself and the group. In this way we help you to open up to a fuller, richer intimacy – and also to more of yourself.

These two days are the conscious sexuality workshop part of the experience: a safe, held space where you explore connection and intimacy through structured exercises and sensual rituals.

Monday 12th (afternoon and evening)

Having spent two full days opening up and exploring your desires, it’s time to PLAY. On the Monday afternoon we move into play space – now it’s time to explore your passions and desires in whatever way feels good to you (as long as it’s consensual, of course). This is an invitation to revel in a free and open space, bringing with you everything you’ve learnt over the past few days. Here you get to be deep, open-hearted and magnificently sexy – all at the same time!

The play party is the climax of the retreat, a wonderful opportunity to express yourself in your erotic glory and your glorious vulnerability.

Tuesday 13th

The last full day of the retreat is a space to integrate what you’ve experienced before leaving The Garden. All too often we leave workshops on a massive high and come crashing down a day or two later. In this way we can lose the benefit of the liberating and empowering experience we’ve had. In this last day we look at how you can gather up the magic of what you’ve experienced and sprinkle it into every corner of your life. We’ll give you a lazy morning, and then we’ll hold space for this work to really drop in and integrate, We’ll also provide space for reflections and sharings from you all and give feedback on how you can best integrate this work into your everyday life.

Wednesday 14th

After breakfast we have a beautiful closing ceremony then it’s time to take your liberated and awakened self home – or onto the next adventure! 

What are the Eight Pillars of Magical Space?

The Garden is built upon the Nine Pillars of Magical Space. Over the years Newman has developed an understanding of what brings deep intimacy to erotic connections. From this they developed the Eight Pillars, which inform the way we guide you through The Garden. These are:

  • Getting in touch with your boundaries
  • Feeling your desires
  • Communicating bravely and clearly
  • Taking self-responsibility
  • Sharing vulnerability
  • Coming into presence and cultivating awareness
  • Daring to be juicy
  • Recognising uniqueness and celebrating difference
  • Stepping into the unknown

Through your time in The Garden you’ll come to learn which of these Pillars are stronger in you and which need strengthening – individually and as a group.

Who guides you through The Garden?

Your guides through The Garden are Ellie Wilde and Newman Alexander.

Wild child, Essex girl, Tantrika, Sexual Shaman, Poet, Artist, Hermit and Mother – Ellie Wilde has been exploring the field of Tantra and Conscious Sexuality personally for the last 20 years and professionally for the last 7.

A Certified Sexological Bodyworker and Somatic Sex Coach she has trained with the Institute of Somatic Sexology, Chuloquai Quodoshka, and the late World-renowned Women’s Sexuality teacher – Shakti Malan, Ellie also has extensive training with the International School of Temple Arts (ISTA) with whom she is faculty with.

Ellie works Internationally with ISTA and regularly runs her own workshops in New Zealand. She has a successful private practice at her home in Mt Maunganui – Bay of Plenty NZ where she offers personal empowerment sessions and deep immersions to individuals and couples.

Her own rich journey informs her work, she brings a depth of realness, and authenticity into her facilitation. It is her personal story from abuse to sexual empowerment and her passion for the highest potential for humanity that inspires her to support others with their intimate quest for liberation.

Newman Alexander (formerly London Faerie) is one of the rising stars of the European conscious sexuality scene. Over the past 10 years Newman has guided thousands of people to a fuller expression of who they are through liberating their sexuality. Newman’s work has a passionate focus on pleasure, a deep embracing of kink and a strong awareness of the importance of boundaries & consent. Above all, their work is about empowerment through permission, inviting you to come forward and dare to be all that you are.

Newman is the founder of Sacred Pleasures in London, where they run 6-8 workshops a year. They regularly lead workshops in Holland, Denmark, Germany and Finland, as well as performing at festivals including Xplore, Osho Leela and The Summerhouse. They also offer individual sessions, helping people to liberate their sexuality through coaching, bodywork and kinky training.

Who is this workshop for?

The Garden is an Intermediate event, aimed at those with a little experience working with conscious sexuality (Tantra, etc) or personal growth. You’ve probably attended other workshops or spent some time exploring yourself and or your sexuality in another way.

The Garden is not suitable for people who are brand-new in self-development.

The Garden is open to people of any gender and orientation. If you come on your own you’re invited to work with different people throughout the retreat. If you come with a lover or partner (or in a triad or poly group) you’re invited to work with your partner(s) as much as you want – and if you wish sometimes to work separately, that’s also welcomed.

If you’re not sure whether The Garden is for you, please email Ellie at and she’ll be happy to chat with you about it.

Location Bella Rakha Retreat – Auckland New Zealand

Workshop dates & times

The Garden is a fully immersive retreat so please commit to attending it from start to finish.

Arrive: Friday 9th March 2018, 5 – 6pm

Depart: Wednesday 14th March, 12 noon

Apply here

Once you have been confirmed a place on the retreat and followed the application process Investment the this immersive experience is:

Early bird $1495 NZD ( limited number of tickets at this price register asap to secure your early bird ticket)

Regular    $1695 NZD

You can also secure your place with a $500 deposit (non refundable) balance payable by end of February.

***************Prices include accommodation and all your meals during the event********************

A few words about gender

At our workshops we aim to have a good balance of people across the gender spectrum. This includes those who are gender-queer, gender-fluid, trans or otherwise gender-identified.

The exercises and activities we invite you to participate in are never gendered and we don’t emphasize or reinforce ideas on how men, women or others are supposed to behave. Instead we create a space where you can discover what you want and how you want to express it according to your desires and preferences.

We ask all participants to bring awareness about their assumptions concerning gender and sexual orientation.

One assumption we sometimes meet in workshops is this: as a straight male participant, you’ll always partner with a female participant and you have the right to express consternation if that doesn’t happen. We do not support this assumption and we never guarantee the gender of the person you’ll be working with in any exercise.

That said, we encourage you to take care of your boundaries at all times if you find yourself paired with someone you’re not normally intimate with or aren’t attracted to. At the same time we encourage you to let yourself be surprised by the intimacy and connection that’s possible when you drop certain assumptions.

In brief: please come with an open mind, don’t assume anything and stay within your boundaries.

If you need to cancel your place at The Garden, we apply the following cancellation terms:
if you cancel by 9th Jan (8 weeks before retreat): we issue a full refund minus a $100 cancellation fee and the $500 non refundable deposit
if you cancel between 10th Jan and 8th Feb (4-8 weeks before retreat): we refund 50% of the full price of the retreat less the $500 non refundable deposit
if you cancel after the 8th Feb: we do not issue a refund


9 (Friday) 7:00 pm - 14 (Wednesday) 12:00 pm NZ


Bella Raka Retreat Centre,

581 West Coast Rd, Oratia 0604 Auckland


Ellie Wilde