In my humble opinion and as a woman in the Conscious Sexuality and Tantric Community a lot of emphasis seems to be put on us finding our “inner whore”.

“Connect to Lilith, the wild wanton part of yourself, its just your hang ups and social conditioning that’s preventing you from truly feeling your desire, inside of you is a wild wanton bitch, she is just so trussed up in shame and guilt you can no longer connect to her”

And whilst this maybe true, I’m sure I probably do have more of a libido down there at times. And sure, I grew up in a normal household in the UK where sex wasn’t a free spirited enlightened act of an expression of the Divine. It was awkwardly talked about by parents and most of my knowledge around my sexuality came from being behind the bike sheds, I’ve had a fair bit of unravelling to do in order to feel my full expression, and am still working on it too, to be honest.

However, I want to also honour and acknowledge the equally as powerful and important archetype the Virgin.

At one point in our human history the virgin and whore split did not exist in our collective psyche, they were part of the same expression of our sexual wholeness.

The virgin in us represents the part of us that totally claims our sexuality for our own sake only, and feels her body totally belonging to her and her only. The quality of the virgin archetype that truly resonates with me is how she represents the ultimate honour of truly following her own feelings and bodily responses and never giving into the pressure of the other. Duty sex, she does not do, nor does she ever feel the need to prove herself a sexual goddess Tantrika or suchlike, she will never trade her sexuality in any way as it is holy and sacred and not a means of transfer or exchange.

The virgin also tastes things for the first time. How amazing and special is it to approach the body, sensuality and sex in this way, and slow down as if you are experiencing for the first time the wonder of sensation, flesh, taste, and smell. To touch as if you have never touched another being before and feel another’s touch as if it’s a totally new feeling.

When we slow down enough to truly taste and feel all the different and subtle sensations a new dimension opens, and the wonder and magic of being manifest in form can come in., we experience our bodily form as the Divine creation it is.

So this isn’t a post to bag the whore in favour of the virgin, like she is somehow more virtuous and in a higher plane, this post is simply an acknowledgement of the split and a gesture towards unifying these two powerful expressions within the collective psyche around our sexuality, particularly as women.

How truly Divine to feel the wild wanton passion of the whore whilst also embracing the qualities of presence and honour of the Virgin.

Embodying both the Virgin and the Whore that’s powerful place to explore from.