About Ellie
For many years I've had the privilege of walking alongside men as they navigate sexuality, intimacy and personal growth.
Through private mentoring, workshops and international trainings, I've witnessed the courage it takes to face ourselves and the profound transformation that becomes possible when we do.
Over that time, one thing became abundantly clear.
Beneath concerns about sex, performance or pornography, I repeatedly encountered something much more human:
Shame. Loneliness. Fear of inadequacy. Disconnection.
But I also witnessed something extraordinary.
I watched men reconnect with themselves, their bodies and the people they loved through honest conversation, emotional courage and a more conscious relationship with their sexual energy.
I watched them replace habits that left them feeling ashamed, fragmented and drained with ways of living that made them feel proud of the men they were becoming.
This work has the power to transform every area of life.
Because sexual energy isn't just about sex.
Sexual energy is life-force.
It's the energy that quietly shapes the way we relate to ourselves, our partners and life itself.
Again and again, I saw that when a man's relationship with himself changed and when his relationship with his sexual energy changed - everything around him began to change too.
This work didn't emerge from a theory or a philosophy I decided to teach.
It emerged from years of sitting with men in real time - listening, observing and discovering what genuinely helped them reconnect with themselves.
Today I offer a practical, grounded and compassionate approach that draws on tantra, somatic coaching, trauma-informed practice and nervous system awareness.
I don't believe men need fixing.
I believe they need the right conditions to remember who they are.
To cultivate so much aliveness that the things which no longer serve them naturally begin to loosen their grip.
It is a privilege to walk alongside them as they remember more of who they are.
A Little More About Me
Although I was born in the UK, I've spent almost half my life in New Zealand, so these days I feel a little like a hybrid.
New Zealand has become home to my soul, while the UK is where my family and many of my oldest roots remain.
Outside of my work, you'll usually find me near water. Whether I'm swimming in the ocean, plunging into an icy lake or walking along the coastline, it's where I remember who I am.
If you'd like to know more about my own journey, the experiences that have shaped this work, and the occasional story from life along the way, you're warmly invited to visit my Substack.
Read my Substack
Where I share my own story, reflections and the experiences that have shaped this work here
Or The Men's Room
Where I give voice to the conversations many men are having with themselves at 2 a.m here
Training & Experience
Over the years I have had the privilege of working with thousands of men through private mentoring, workshops and international trainings.
My work is informed by training in:
Somatic Sex Coaching
Sexological Bodywork
Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy
Trauma-informed practice
Tantra
Taoist sexual cultivation
Nervous system regulation and embodiment
10 years Group facilitation
But more than any qualification, it is the hours spent sitting with men that have shaped the work I offer today.