...the truth is the more we are able to access our embodied knowing the better the world will become. And there may be times when we need to find stability by distracting ourselves, by finding someone to co-regulate with, by choosing to go for a walk in the woods instead of getting on with our to do list, or by having a day when we prioritise just feeling and being with what is, turning off our phones and allowing ourselves to digest.

In somatic trauma resolution we begin to grow our capacity to feel more, but it’s a mistake to think that we then have to feel it all, in fact feeling it all can sometimes land us back into a trauma response, where we are either fighting things or running away from them or frozen and incapacitated or just numb, all perfectly normal responses I might add.

However, none of us want to live in a trauma response unless our immediate well-being depends on those vital life saving responses of course.

Rushing around as if it's a matter of life or death suddenly realizing your shoulders are up by your ears, your arse is as tight as a Victorian woman's corset and you haven’t sat down and taken a breath all day?

In my opinion this is why I think “white knuckling it” through your healing journey just creates more workshop tourism and keeps you stuck as a perpetual seeker as there is little or no lasting change and so you have to keep going back for more. This is the shadow side of the self development and transformational retreats and workshops industry.

We have had centuries and centuries of demonising women’s sexuality, of calling it dirty, shameful, dangerous, unholy.

There has been centuries of women as property, belonging and beholden to the husband. Centuries of women disconnecting from their own source of pleasure and power to seek safety by being agreeable, by being compliant, by opening her legs to secure her position.

There are only two true directions, towards and away.

Resourcing - My Favourite tool in my Somatic Therapy Tool Kit.

One of the many medicines of menopause - the inability to push - and respecting the Body’s rhythms, energy levels and true capacity.

Your mind is a great asset for strategy, logic and assessing. But it’s not a place to spend too much of your time.

Though for some of us, we get stuck there! Find how to come back to the body and your innate blueprint of wellness.